Sunday, 27 May 2007

Surviving Marriage

Today I got to speak with my wife (in Church that is)and I really enjoyed it.
Ecc 4: 9 - 12
9 Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one; they get a better return for their labor. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But people who are alone when they fall are in real trouble. 11 And on a cold night, two under the same blanket can gain warmth from each other. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. NLT

When I got married on the 13th April 1996 a friend of mine Andy Rogers sang a song over Chelle and I during our marriage celebration about the three cords that are not easily broken. I factored in God in our marriage but it takes time and mistakes to bring your wife into the centre of your world.

How many times do you come home from work or wherever and not truly come home. We don't engage or allow our spouse to come into the centre of our souls, we block them out and go through the motions of marriage and family life.We fail to connect at an intimate emotional level and wonder why our sex lives leave us dissatisfied and we refuse to see the connection.

Many times married couples don't even invite each other into their spiritual journey, we could be challenging each others faith and enriching our relationship with Christ in the centre.

I've a question for you, when you come home to your wife/husband do you come home and if you don't why not try it this week and enjoy the difference?


Wanderer said...

Agree with you about the emotional connection mate ... it's way too easy to just start taking each other for granted. What advice or tips would you have for making sure those connections are kept open?

Wanderer said...

Oh yeah ... and was that pic taken last Christmas? If it was ... you've lost weight mate! :o)

jasondscott said...

To keep the connections open in our marriage is always about bringing each other into the centre of our lives. It's amazing how quickly we can lose that intimate connection and so its vital that even when we don't feel like it that we don't exclude.

Also make time to get away to get alone with each other, a differrent envoirnment is a great tool for intimacy even if it costs a little which should be seen as an investment anyway.